Fly like an eagle..

Have you ever noticed an eagle flying in the sky? It usually flies alone. And I suppose it enjoys its flight. To see where I am going, let me start where it all started. I've been getting a lot of "It's time you found someone" from my friends lately. Its their feeling that its about time. Well, I'd be happy if I found someone but I definitely am not going to lose my sleep over it.

I do come across some of my co-workers and colleagues who feel that they're missing good times by not being in a relationship. The peer pressure of people around them doesn't help either. They rue over the fact that they don't have much life on weekends which makes them dour and dull on normal workdays. These people are not alone. Based on my internet browsing experience, I've come across many such people who share a similar opinion. "Trapped in loneliness", that's what they call it. At the same time, I see people who are into a committed relationship sighing how little time they have now to spend for themselves because in whatever little time they have, they are busy doing this or doing that with their better halves or their kids. They long for that never available precious time for doing that special something which they always wanted to do but never did. One such committed guy admitted that he sometimes envied my simple life. I guess the grass is always greener on the other side. Or maybe your neighbor always has the best lawn mower.

I do lead a simple life in fact. When I am not working, I spend most of my time at home (sweet home) playing computer games or doing stuff that keeps me busy. Since I don't venture out much, I can safely say that my social life is not something to write home about. Most of my friends keep in touch with me online and thus ensure that I need not hang out with them often (as I said somewhere in this blog before, I have the social skills of a neanderthal, so they prefer to keep in touch online rather than in person. Some of them also have the excuse of living in different countries.). So the only time I get to go out on a regular basis is when I go out to do some grocery shopping, etc. This averages to about a grand total of a couple of hours a week. Since I've laid down a rule for myself that I won't date someone from work (I admit that I did break this rule once [I'm prone to breaking rules], but not planning to do it again.) walking down the aisles of the supermarket is the only time when you can say I get a window to meet the other people of the world. Honestly, two hours per week does not seem to be enough. And the people who come out to do groceries are not exactly there to hang out or meet people. Admit it, its a boring chore that everyone wants to avoid and get quickly done over with and invariably you are not dressed in your Sunday best or as if you are going to date on a Friday night. This adds to the challenge. The other time I get out is when I am traveling. But since its mostly business travel, again, not much life after work. Its just do-your-business-and-then-travel-back-home.

So what about my weekend? Weekend for me means, playing Wii or Age of Empires, reading books (thrillers, mainly), or catching up on weekly Su-do-ku or Crossword for almost 5 hours (most of it indoors as you might have observed). Or I simply catch up on my sleep. Or got online and catch up with friends. Did I tell you they prefer catching up with me on the internet only? Summary of my life. Dull? But definitely not boring. I sure do get my (so-called) work-life balance.

So, I definitely don't lose my sleep on being single. IMHO I would rather in fact cherish the time I stayed single (which I'm doing) just as much as I would enjoy being in a relationship. No point in worrying about the things that would happen tomorrow today. And when I find that special girl who's going to change my schedule (my weekend schedule especially), I'll definitely go along with her. I'm pretty sure that one of these days I will return from my grocery shopping with something more than I can chew on. But till that time, I'd prefer flying like an eagle, and enjoy every bit of the flight.

So the next time someone tells me, "It's time you found someone," I'll say, let time decide that for me.

As Steve Miller sang:

Time keeps on slippin, slippin, slippin
Into the future
Time keeps on slippin, slippin, slippin
Into the future

I want to fly like an eagle
To the sea
Fly like an eagle
Let my spirit carry me
I want to fly like an eagle
Till Im free

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